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Dating With Kids: 5 Ground Rules For Introducing Your New Partner To Your Kids
This article first appeared on GalTime. com
You thought dating was hard the first time? Here you are, single again, but this time with children. You finally meet someone you really, really like and want to introduce him to your kids. How do you go about it? What if your youngsters don’t like him? What if he doesn’t like them? What if it doesn’t work out?
Before you even think about introducing your children to your new boyfriend, you need to have been dating for at least six months. No, I’m not crazy. Didn’t your last relationship end in divorce? You don’t want that to happen again and you certainly don’t want your children to go through that again. It takes at least six months to begin to really know a person. You don’t want to introduce someone and one month later have to explain to your children why they don’t see "Mike" anymore.
I would also advise that you let your ex-husband know you are introducing someone to your children. It's the respectful thing to do if you have a good relationship with him. Take your time. It’s not a race to the altar again. It’s not just your life; it’s your kid’s lives too. Here are a few ground rules for introducing a new love to your children.
1. No Expectations . This is a casual event. You can’t force anyone to like anyone. Telling your children they have to be nice or like someone is a sure fire way to ruin the meeting. Let everyone meet and form their own opinions.
2. Group Setting . Have the first five meetings in a group setting. For instance, a backyard BBQ with friends and your new man. You should introduce him as a friend and give your children the chance to get to know your guy in a fun, relaxed, no pressure atmosphere. A group setting allows children to feel non-threatened. It's best not to show affection during these first five meetings. He’s just a friend right now.
3. Go Slowly . Remember, you might be in love, but your children need time to get used to a new situation. Follow their cues. If you sense they are having issues, talk to them. Slow down if you have to. Trust me, going slow now will ensure you have success later.
4. One Mom, One Dad . Reassure your children that they only have one mom and one dad. No one will replace either of you. I told my children this a few months after I introduced my then boyfriend to them. My son actually liked my boyfriend so much he wanted to call him dad. I had to take him aside and say, “I am so glad you like him! But you only have one mom and one dad.” He was only five years old, so I kept it age appropriate.
5. Rules for the New Family . As you begin to settle in together as a new group, it’s important for you to discuss how it plays out with your new partner. Have a long talk about expectations, discipline, money, education and anything else you might deal with. It’s a big deal merging families. You want your children to be happy in this new environment.
Dating after divorce can be tricky, but if you take your time and navigate the right way, it can be a win-win for everyone. Here’s my story.
I dated my boyfriend (now my husband) for six months before I introduced him to my children. I had to be sure he would be in my life in for a long time. I decided to slowly introduce him as a friend. I had a pool party with about four adult guests, him being one of them. I just introduced him as a friend. We did about five more group outings before he came to do things with just me and my two children. We slowly began doing fun kids things with just the four of us. We waited another four months before we showed any affection (hand holding, kissing) in front of them. After that, we slowly started holding hands and told the kids he was my boyfriend. Three years and six months later -- we are one super happy family and all because we took it slowly. I love my children too much to rush into anything with anyone.
Make sure you are in love and take your time; if he’s a great guy and you move slowly, your children will see how great he is too!
Do you have a different story? What worked or didn't work for you?
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Dating A Girl With BPD (Borderline Personality Disorder)
by Rick on 08/04/2014 · 115 comments
Information on women with BPD has been available for so many years now that it should be easy to figure out how you should date them, right?
Oh how I truly wish that were the case!
I have dated multiple women with BPD over the years and each one further grew my understanding of relationships, especially the BPD type. I’ve even created a Member’s Only Forum where you can get as much help, advice and training from me as you need.
The thing about BPD that I always teach everybody is that we need to be focusing on the individual and NOT the diagnosis.
And if you’re a woman, I have created an entire article on dating a male BPD just for you. So check that out!
The word ‘BPD’ has so many negative words associated with it, I’m sure you’ve seen these thrown all over the web. All you have to do is take a quick visit to any community forum and you’ll see all those different words such as:
manipulation
lying
cheating
anxiety
unable to love
hot/cold
And so on and so forth. It really bothers me that the general consensus is to associate these negative words with people that have BPD.
The reality is that most people are any of those words as well!
So the first step to having any success with someone that suffers from BPD (borderline personality disorder) is to take a break from the online forums and negative articles. Let’s focus on the people in the relationship – your partner and YOU.
The Truth About YOU
The truth is that ALL of us have some level of issues or problems that we’re probably not even aware of!
Take me for example… I never really thought of myself as attractive, and I always had trouble being social. But I was always told that I’d meet a girl that liked me for who I am.
The problem? I didn’t like who I am! So when I look back on my old self, it was no surprise that I kept on ending up with women that also had insecurity issues, lack of self-esteem, shy, emotional – women like me .
It was only after a lot of reading, dating BPD-type women, self-evaluating and more experiences that my problems began to surface. I really had a tough time letting go of my ego and accepting that I’m a human being with problems just like BPD’s.
It’s extremely important that you lose your ego and understand that a lot of the problems you experience in your relationships could very well be your fault!
And that’s okay. It’s 2014 and the world is a crazy place. None of us come from the same background and upbringing so you must be open-minded that the women you date will be different.
Once your problems are at the surface, it becomes a lot easier to work and defeat them. I’m a completely different person than I was just a few years ago. It’s crazy to think about how much I’ve changed over the years and dating some of the most beautiful women alive.
You Must Read This: A Letter to Me from a Woman with BPD
I recently received this message from a woman who is diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder and I would like to share it with you as there are a lot of golden nuggets to be found:
“Hello I am a woman with BPD. I have struggled with relationships. But I would like to point out that I am not (neither are other people with this disorder) hopeless to date .
I have been in a relationship with a man for over a year now. I finally have found someone with the maturity to understand my mental disorder (which I am still working on overcoming).
He does not let me walk all over him .
We give each other space – and I do not control him nor does he control me.
It doesn’t take just an understanding from a man. You are right, it isn’t just the mans fault. It also takes an understanding from the person with BPD to want to change, and OVERCOME the disorder, which is possible.
You are right. The man can’t be the only one working on his actions. The woman must understand at least a little that she does have a disorder and does need help with it. She needs to be working on her actions as well.
But let me tell you it DOES make a difference on how the man reacts to her actions .
My man isn’t a push over. When I cross the line, my man clearly points it out. He makes me realize that I cannot treat him like shit over and over again or he WILL leave me.
And I do believe if I keep crossing that line, he is strong enough to treat himself how he deserves and leave me. I do not need him trying to make me happy constantly. He needs to be who he is.
He is a loving, strong, ‘alpha male’, who is actually mature enough to take advice from sites and books like these and put them into use .
We may be labeled as ‘troubled’ or ‘crazy’ but that does not at all mean we can’t have healthy relationships.
Just like Rick said, it takes an understanding. You have to be on there level .
You have to be mature enough to learn about it and want to do your part to make the relationship work. How you react to a woman with BPD has a huge affect on the relationship working or not.
It does take an understanding from the person with BPD also to want to change. I may have a disorder, but it does not control my life.
And I would like you to know it is NOT impossible to date us, it is POSSIBLE that you are very judgmental and not understanding what the disorder truly is and that you are simply clueless on how you can help make the relationship work.
If you truly do care then you will truly want to understand. So I suggest you do some research and get some advice from someone like Rick next time you find yourself in a relationship with someone who has Borderline Personality Disorder.”
- Carrie
I love when I receive letters like this from women that have BPD. It basically says everything that I’ve been saying for so long.
It also shows that dating a woman with BPD is possible!
But Why Is It So Difficult For Some Men To Date A BPD?
I was a member on several of the most popular forums related to BPD and there’s one common theme – nobody is talking about success.
Have you noticed this common trend yourself? Why do you think it’s like this?
I personally believe that most men experiencing the turmoil happen to be weak and inexperienced with highly emotional women. Don’t be offended by that statement as it was the case for me just a few years ago.
Like the woman described above, these BPD’s want to be loved and cared for. They want a partner they can depend on and feel safe around. So I highly encourage you to re-read her letter over and over so you can get an understanding of the type of man she is happy with.
Women Are Simply Highly Emotional
And a lot of men are as well. It doesn’t surprise me that most men are not capable of succeeding in these BPD relationships.
Because most men are weak these days and over-protective of their fragile little egos, it’s very easy to just label your girlfriend as ‘crazy’ and move on with your life.
Some of us guys want to succeed in these relationships, so we spend a considerable amount of time on the internet looking up information and help. We want to learn as much as we can about BPD.
Unfortunately, most of the information is of the negative variety as I pointed out at the beginning of the article. This just let’s us easily label our girlfriend as someone with ‘issues’.
Either way, neither of these scenarios hit at the more important issue which is YOU. Our ego makes it very difficult to want to examine ourselves. But that’s why I’m here, so I can educate you and help you open up and grow into your awesomeness.
Now the big “shocker” is that all girls are emotional creatures. The ones that are highly emotional tend to be labelled as crazy by the men that simply don’t have what it takes to date them.
Now I know BPD is a real mental disorder but I like to believe in people because I’ve succeeded in BPD relationships. Remember that I said to focus on the individual instead of the diagnosis. This is very important that you instill this mindset into your head, even if you’re positive she has BPD.
Remember that you have issues just like everybody else. I can tell you right now that the first step to succeeding in a BPD relationship is by being open-minded, evaluating yourself and thinking outside of your bubble.
Yes, BPD’s can and will drive you crazy at times. Their behavior is off the wall and extremely frustrating. They have abandonment issues. They can be hot/cold. But again, refer to that woman’s letter above. How does her husband handle it?
What could you do in your relationship right now that would make you feel stronger?
You Must Work On Yourself
That is the key message I want to get across today and I hope you understand why this is so important in succeeding in all types of relationships.
I know that BPD can be quite the headache at times and extremely frustrating for you. But it’s really not something that you need to be thinking logically about. BPD women are simply different and that’s just how it is!
It doesn’t mean that they’re bad people.
You will need the tools and knowledge that comes with experience if you wish to succeed in these types of relationships. You’ll need to learn a lot and get to the point where you’re strong like that woman’s husband.
Conclusion
The reason why women with BPD get so much hate is simply because 90% of the men dating them are not at the level they need to be (again, refer to the letter above). There is really only a small percentage of people that have the knowledge and skills to date people with BPD – people like me.
BPD women require a man that has the necessary skills, attitude, mentality, beliefs and knowledge. Without these, she’s going to control you, dominate you, drive you crazy – everything that you fear.
If you haven’t done so yet, I highly encourage you to check out my BPD Success Program . It’s an e-book and audio program that lays out the exact system, mindsets, techniques and more that has allowed me to date BPD’s and all sorts of other ‘crazy’ women.
It’s only $23 and you can download it and be reading it immediately. I’m really proud of it and the success it’s brought to other people just like yourself so please check it out. Feel free to email me with any other questions.
And now I want you to contribute to this article. Tell me about your experience with BPD women in the comments below.
Lol well what you’re basically saying here is that 1 out of 100 men are good for you. And I probably agree with you on that. You’re not far off here. Most normal people are just horrible in relationships. But all it takes is one person to make a good partner
Hi Rick,
Thank you for this great article. I live with my BPD girlfriend (that I diagnosed all by myself, with no education or training that would qualify to make such a diagnosis…) and I am having some trouble.
I have learned to manage all her problems except for one: her constant search for the perfect guy. Like any borderline, she used to think I was perfect. She thought this of every guy she has dated. She has left every guy she has ever dated for someone else. Unfortunately, I was this someone else and I didn’t know it. James Bond isn’t real, but she is looking for him anyway. How do I compete with this fiction in her head? Every time she meets a guy who is even slightly attractive/funny/smart, she thinks long and hard about whether she would date him, and whether she should leave me for him. Most of the guys she has these crushes on aren’t interested in her. Probably because she is too clingy and it turns them off (or maybe because they are decent men who don’t want to fool around with someone who has a boyfriend). Either way, she genuinely gets upset when she gets rejected by one of these men, and she gets really happy when a guy is interested in her or gives a compliment (even if he is a coworker buttering her up so she can do him a favor, she can’t tell).
Her ex-boyfriend acted like he was James Bond, and she left him anyway. She sometimes cries and misses him, usually when we get into a fight. I am struggling with her wishing she could go back to him, or else hoping to find someone who doesn’t find anything wrong with her (i. e. a guy who barely knows her). She doesn’t have these thoughts when I am doing everything to make her happy. Do I really have to be on my best behavior all the time or risk losing her? Any tips are appreciated.
Ok first of all I think you should move out. You should never live with a BPD until you’re married. Period. Reason for this is simply because a relationship with a BPD is the type where the less you’re around her environment, the more she craves you. The reason she’s thinking about dating other men is because you live with her, you’re around her all the time, etc. and so she loses interest in you. This is classic BPD and the solution is to simply be distant. Move out, hangout with her once or twice a week.
Next piece of advice and getting deeper her. You are living in her world currently. BPD’s are really good at making guys change their lifstyle and behavior to try to become the guy that the BPD wants. This is the BIGGEST problem guys have and it’s why these relationships always fail. So to answer your questions here in a simple sentence: Stop living for her and instead DO WHAT YOU WANT. If she’s crying about her ex, tell her to go back to him. If she’s being a bitch, tell her to go be a bitch somewhere else.
BPD’s really aren’t that difficult to date when you know how to. The problem is most guys are trying to please her all the time and forget about themselves. The most attractive thing to a BPD is a guy that DOES WHAT HE WANTS and doesn’t aim to please her. So stop trying to be a better man for her. She’s upset when other men reject her? WTF! Dude if I saw my girl getting pissed about being rejected, I would be like ‘Wait, you’re telling me that my GIRLFRIEND is upset because another guy rejected her? So if he didn’t reject you, what would you do?’ And if she said anything other than ‘Oh nothing it’s just for fun’ I would dump her on the spot and head home.
TLDR: you need to get your manliness back and really take control of your balls.
I have had an on and off relationship with a girl I diagnosed with BPD. She flew off the handle over some stupid shit last year around this time and we didn’t talk for 6 months. She dragged me back in and this time I started out with a totally different mindset and it worked for a while. She slowly started to pull away and I didn’t understand.
We just slowed things down and then we found out she was pregnant. It was the “need you, miss you, love you” all over again. I moved in shortly after we found out we were expecting to save on expenses. I did everything to make her life easy while she was pregnant. We told everyone and my family was thrilled. She was very hormonal and we started to fight once I lived there. She did the pulling away thing and hated to be touched which started to damage the once amazing sex life. The last fight she told me she didn’t want to be with me anymore and said she wanted to have an abortion. I begged her not to got my things and moved out hoping it would give her the space she needed.
Two days later she called me to tell me she had the procedure done. I’m destroyed by this, couldn’t believe it. Now that its all said and done she feels horrible that she dragged everyone in my family into this mess. She now thinks that we can help each other through this pain that she has caused. I am emotionally and physically a wreck now. What should I do.
Wow man this is pretty intense but typical BPD behavior once again. It’s like no matter what you do, no matter the situation, they never change and this is evident of it. Here’s an extremely important tip: NEVER MOVE IN WITH A BPD GIRLFRIEND! Ever. It’s just not a good idea. And when you’re married, you had best have your own man cave so you can give her space (while pretending that you need space. That’s key!).
I even had an ex BPD tell me that when she’s married, she’s going to need separate rooms in order to stay married. BPD’s simply need their space every other day or so even if they love you.
It makes sense to be emotionally wrecked. The only thing you can do is pick yourself back up and continue moving forward and improve your life. Don’t let the past haunt you as it will do you no good. Simply start working forward. If you want the BPD in your life going forward, then this is your choice. Just remember to not move in with her, don’t be her white knight, etc.
Bros, your not making any sense. i dated someone with bpd for over a year and half, and before that < i never experience anything like that in my entire life.
So long story short i will tell you and others what had happen to me dating someone with bpd.
Constant fight and arguement, spending all your money in the relationship without getting anything back, abuse, control, become homeless, went to jail, got $ from bank acct stole from when trying to leave the relationship and this is some of the few things im sharing, now you tell me how in the world do you think its posible to date someone with such trouble.
Edit by Rick: Carrie, this is such a good response that I added it to my post. Roman is just a sad person who will never get it. Oh well. Let them be lost.
Im sorry i have to agree with Roman. Bpd, is a disorder. There is no way to treat someone with a disorder that will make a relationship better. I just left my ex after 2 years, same story she lied cheated, played the victim, accepted zero responsibility foe any of her action. And every time i would put my foot down and say that behavior is unacceptable. We would break up and not talk for a week or so, and she would come back and promise to change. There is no way around this, i realize that me allowing her to come back only reinforces that her actions have no consiquences and my threats are meaningless… That is why the unfortunate reality is that the only way this message will truley resonate is when i left for good. So hopefully this will help the next guy. But i dont see how any actions on my part could have changed her behavior.
Hi Rick, as you say everything match up with my bpd, she is pretty damm hot and crazy and promiscous, bad childhood, Family separated and so on, i ve been dating 3 years with her, being the guy that listened and trasmited calm…but now i see when i made my mistakes, its been 2 years now we separated, i started to feel like a big turnover in my self being…felt like i was detaching from an painful hillness, it took me months to balance, but still to this day i have a small feeling i must solve that is hanger and anxiety transmited thru all the 3 years together Now we stay together 1 and half months in beteween college holidays, but when school starts, i leave her… it as to be becouse is too draining, i must improvo on thet… we are both in our 33, and since i ve done my first year in Grad of Economics, working in aviation, gym, net projects and not giving her attention, she started to see that i ve goals better then hers, so she comes for good moments(sex), but that is not my long term thinking, i must lay down the law… now i understand why. i ve downloaded your book and confirms what i ve been thinking, bpd womem are receptor of man power…if you are weak your doomed, even with 1.88 and 95 klg, its the cahracter that matters, STRONG cahracter… I ll read your book times and time again because i now its the way i ve been doing and results are showing up… but thats nottt eassyyyy…. Greetings Rick. Thanks
Hey John, that is the key. I’m not being bias when I say that my book is the best book on the planet about how to effectively have a relationship with a BPD. It needs to be read over and over and over again. Must be consumed until the material becomes YOU. So yes, keep reading it over and over again because if you don’t, you’ll fall back on old habits. And you need to break those old habits.
i am staying in india44 yr old guy. i had a 7 yr relationship with bpd girl. she belongs to poor joint family. in which no one take care of her. i took care of her. i am the person who stayed 7 yrs in her life. she is always unsecured. emotional, some times crying some times fighting. she dont like critisicm. always her mood changes. six month before she left me because of my financial condition and my families negative attitude. but as soon as i started good job, she has contact me. she tried to make relationship with me again but because of her new relationship i keep distance. last year she wants to marry with me but she want permision from my and her family as per indian tradition. i love her i cant forgot her and i want to treat her. she always worried about me. but now situation is she is not contacting me frequently. as per her mood she contact me.
Hey Rick,
I must say I’m pretty surprised someone has so much respect and understanding for women with BPD. In your articles I can almost read “woman with BPD are so much more fun to be with” (or is it just my narcissism?) I myself am diagnosed as BPD AND bipolar, I’m going to therapy for four years now and I seem to be going pretty well if one considers my previous state.
I’m up to answering any questions men can have about how we really feel and what’s really going on inside, as I’ve been treated and learning about myself for years.
I truly believe people need to understand that being diagnosed with BPD and/or bipolar disorder means fighting myself, all day, every day. I don’t just go around and hurt people, I learn, struggle, fight my own feelings, try to overcome my own pain, and although being borderline or bipolar may seem fun, one eventually get’s tired of eternal rollercoaster.
I currently have some really bad episode, and I would appreciate if you could email me and just talk to me about that, as I’m trying very hard not to hurt my boyfriend (we’re together for 9 months, and he knows about my condition), but I seem to be doing that unintentionally for last couple of days.
Thanks in advance!
hi,
ive not long found out ive got bpd. i’m really finding it hard coping most the time. i feel really guilty for the way i treat my boyfriend. as i read through everything it scares me that i might not love him when i thought i did. i have drama therapy at the minute but then my local nhs mental health team dont want to help me in any way they just keep telling me to go gp but then gp dont do anything either. im really scared of losing him and just want to treat him right.
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