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Dating
Dating is a part of human mating process whereby two people meet socially for companionship. beyond the level of friendship. or with the aim of each assessing the other's suitability as a partner in an intimate relationship or marriage. It can be a form of courtship consisting of social activities done by the couple. While the term has several meanings, it usually refers to the act of meeting and engaging in some mutually agreed upon social activity in public, together, as a couple.
History [ edit ]
Dating as an institution is a relatively recent phenomenon which has mainly emerged in the last few centuries. From the standpoint of anthropology and sociology. dating is linked with other institutions such as marriage and the family which have also been changing rapidly and which have been subject to many forces, including advances in technology and medicine. As humans have evolved from hunter-gatherers into civilized societies and more recently into modern societies, there have been substantial changes in the relationship between men and women, with perhaps the only biological constant being that both adult women and men must have sexual intercourse for human procreation to happen. [ 3 ]
Humans have been compared to other species in terms of sexual behavior. Neurobiologist Robert Sapolsky constructed a reproductive spectrum with opposite poles being tournament species. in which males compete fiercely for reproductive privileges with females, and pair bond arrangements, in which a male and female will bond for life. [ 4 ] According to Sapolsky, humans are somewhat in the middle of this spectrum, in the sense that humans form pair bonds, but there is the possibility of cheating or changing partners. [ 4 ] These species-particular behavior patterns provide a context for aspects of human reproduction. including dating. However, one particularity of the human species is that pair bonds are often formed without necessarily having the intention of reproduction. In modern times, emphasis on the institution of marriage, generally described as a male-female bond, has obscured pair bonds formed by same-sex and transsexual couples, and that many heterosexual couples also bond for life without offspring, or that often pairs that do have offspring separate. Thus, the concept of marriage is changing widely in many countries.
Historically, marriages in most societies were arranged by parents and older relatives with the goal not being love but legacy and "economic stability and political alliances", according to anthropologists. [ 5 ] Accordingly, there was little need for a temporary trial period such as dating before a permanent community-recognized union was formed between a man and a woman. While pair-bonds of varying forms were recognized by most societies as acceptable social arrangements, marriage was reserved for heterosexual pairings and had a transactional nature, where wives were in many cases a form of property being exchanged between father and husband, and who would have to serve the function of reproduction. Communities exerted pressure on people to form pair-bonds in places such as Europe ; in China. according to sociologist Tang Can, society "demanded people get married before having a sexual relationship" [ 6 ] and many societies found that some formally recognized bond between a man and a woman was the best way of rearing and educating children as well as helping to avoid conflicts and misunderstandings regarding competition for mates.
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What Double Your Dating & David Deangelo Is Really About
It was funny. One accused that if I was SO good with women, why wasn't I attached. David Deangelo's book explains some of the reasons why you wouldn't be. why would you be attached to one girl when you can choose between many before you've made up your mind which one you want to be with permanently.
Notice the hostility towards the David Deangelo discipline. There usually is when people are faced with obvious truths. Never have either of these women read or listened to David Deangelo 's material. I'll firstly tell you why. David Deangelo's material does not.
1. Take advantage of vulnerable guys with no self esteem.
2. Teach to use "corny rehearsed cocky shit"
3. Work on brainless girls
Double Your Dating does not take "advantage" of men with low self esteem. David Deangelo 's material clearly teaches to master the "inner game" first before learning "pick up lines". David Deangelo tells you to get your head in the right place, and to start believing in yourself. David Deangelo teaches you to let go of negative past experiences and re-frame your beliefs so you have a positive outlook for the future. Otherwise, how could you attract women? Women aren't attracted to men with low self-esteem. I have noticed that even SUCCESSFUL males aren't always good with women.
David Deangelo never talks about rehearsing "canned" lines. David Deangelo does tell you to adapt the Double Your Dating material to your own personality. To evolve his techniques to fit your personality. Double Your Dating does give you ideas, methods and formulas to create your material to use when approaching, and conversing with women. But David Deangelo never says, "Just use cocky and funny lines". Deangelo does say to use it as a spice and sprinkle it occasionally throughout conversations. But of course, to come up with your own personalized material.
David Deangelo 's methods are so valuable and intelligent that they really don't work on women of lower intelligence. This material is challenging and reward based. The comments you make and the personality you project is not meant for women of lower intelligence. The most intelligent women that I have encountered are usually the ones that are MOST attracted to it. It is designed to help you become an alpha-male that can attract women to your personality. It helps you to overcome barriers such as an unattractive appearance, and helps you overcome your shyness.
What Double Your Dating & David Deangelo Did For Me
I never used to be confident around women. I never used to be able to pick out a woman, walk up, and get a phone number within two minutes. Now I can. Double Your Dating is the reason. In all honesty, it's changed my life. You can read users comments on how Double Your Dating has helped them as well. I've now become a man that has power and choice when it comes to dating and women. I feel a sense of empowerment that only came after I read David Deangelo's ebook Double Your Dating. I don't know where I would be now if I didn't click a link three years ago, and taken that leap. Oh wait, I do know where I'd be: lonely on a Friday night wishing there was a beautiful woman next to me.
In response to these women, might I add that they confessed later that they were NOT in the dating world much and confessed being in a relationship for more than 2 years - not great people to get DATING advice from. They don't know whats going on in the real dating world anymore. They don't understand social dynamics on an "unconscious" level. I feel their criticisms of Double Your Dating / David Deangelo are unwarranted and unfounded.
You'll notice a drastic improvement in your game when you adopt David Deangelo's material that's found in his ebook Double Your Dating. If you haven't already read Double Your Dating, you can download it and be reading it in minutes via this link. otherwise post your feelings about the ebook below.
UPDATE: David Deangelo has released a program that has transformed the online dating world. David Deangelo has gathered the best in the world at the internet dating game and has put together a comprehensive DVD package. The internet is a great place to practice conversation and flirting. If you're interested in online dating, you should take a sneak peek at sample clips for David Deangelo's Meeting Women Online DVD's.
SIDE NOTE: If you really want to amp up your cocky and funny and conversational skills which David Deangelo talks about continually, check out his instructional DVD set Cocky Comedy. All three of these are awesome resources. I have them all and continually look back on them on a regular basis.
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STAGES in Christian Dating/Courtship Relationship
There is a progression that should take place in building a Christian dating relationship. The following is offered as a short Christian dating guide for Christian singles to consider as they build a Christian dating relationship.
(Note: As soon as I say Christian dating guide, every single Christian reading this will think they are an exception and the timing noted does not apply to them. Yes – it does! One of the strangest phenomenons that I have observed is that singles dating behavior is more common than most of us think. I encourage you to not look for the “exception” but where you can build the type of Christian dating relationship that will serve you and your partner well for years to come.)
FANTASY STAGE: 1 – 6 months
1. There is an attraction to each other and Christian singles immediately (or soon thereafter) think they have found their soul mate. Candidly, there is really little more in the Christian dating relationship during this stage than “physical attraction”.
2. There is a temptation for Christian singles to begin saying, “I love you” during this fantasy stage. What the expression really is saying is – “I am in love with the idea of being in love” AND “I really think you are the answer for ME”! It is mostly self-serving.
3. The emphasis should be upon enjoying each other’s company and building a FRIENDSHIP and refraining from going any further.
4. After 2 to 3 months of this type of dating and it is mutually agreed, the Christian dating relationship can move into an exclusive dating arrangement. This should be mutually agreed to and clearly understood by both Christian singles.
5. It is very important that each person have their own accountability group of their own gender. The progress of the Christian dating relationship should be shared so that their objectivity and accountability can be a valuable resource to the couple.
AFFIRMING STAGE: 6 – 12 months
1. Once a couple is satisfied that there is something to take to the next level, the couple should develop a plan in how they can best get to know each other in “real settings” not just in Christian dating situations. This plan will include such things as spending time around family and close friends to enable each other to see how the other person builds and sustains all relationships.
2. I do not suggest that the couple spend all their time together at this stage. It is a temptation to do so, but I suggest that it is actually unhealthy for the Christian dating relationship. Our emotions need to “grow” into this type of deep Christian dating relationship. Pushing the pace causes areas of each other’s character to not be observed. For example: Can the couple enjoy their alone time as well as their together time? If not, what is the “force” at play that is “pushing”? This often means that a healthy bonding is not taking place and the emphasis is upon self-satisfaction in this Christian dating relationship.
3. It is very important to look for CHARACTER issues in each other during this stage of Christian dating. Give yourself enough time and enough settings where character issues can surface. Why is this important? Individuals can “mask” character issues for an extended period of time – especially a few months during the fantasy period of Christian dating. But character is the foundation upon which commitment is built. Character does not change just because one gets married. You need to know “what they are really like” before you move into a marital relationship.
PRE-ENGAGEMENT STAGE: 1 to 2 years
1. The couple has spent a good deal of time building their Christian dating relationship. They mutually agree that this relationship has the great potential of moving into marriage. It is important that there be a “pre” engagement period of time. There is no set time frame for a pre-engagement period. It is more important that the process be completed than the time completed.
2. Marital inventories and temperament sorting should be taken at this stage. These are a wonderful means of finding out which areas you are really in “sync” and where you are apart. It serves as a basis for building the Christian dating relationship into as healthy a one as possible BEFORE marriage. (I highly recommend the inventories developed by Dr. David Olson that can be found at Life Innovations. There are many counselors who can provide Christian singles with insights into the results found in these inventories. The Myers-Briggs temperament sorting is another excellent source of information that each person should know about themselves and each other.)
3. At least 4 sessions should be spent with a Christian counselor who is trained in pre-marital counseling. It would be especially helpful to take the inventories mentioned above to the counselor for their input.
4. It is very important that the couple receive affirmations from family and friends during this stage. If they do not (unless there is a good reason), the couple should take the time to listen to the concerns and take steps to ensure that they are embracing and working through them.
1. Once a couple arrives at the point that they “know” that they want to be married and have all the affirmations that they can receive, they can move from the Christian dating stage with confidence into the engagement stage.
2. I do not recommend a prolonged engagement once the couple decides to get married. If they have done the process in a “seasoning” manner, they should plan to marry as practical – with mutual agreement. I say this so that pre-marital sex will not be a temptation.
MARRIAGE STAGE:
The couple should be able to enjoy the blessings of God as well as family and friends as they move into a marriage that has been well planned and confirmed in a healthy process. They can be assured that they have taken the steps to assure a long and satisfying marriage.
There are so many voices at play in our world today. Many of these encourage us to rush into marriage with anyone as soon as we find a strong attraction. This is not wise and God wants to mature you in your Christian dating and bonding process. It is my prayer that Christian singles will use the above to develop their own Christian dating guide for building a strong and satisfying relationship.
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