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Steve Harvey Launches Delightful. com To Help Women 'Become More Dateable'



Thursday, October 16 2014 @ 07:10 AM



Contributed by: ElyseRomano



Views: 10



After teaching women to Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man . Steve Harvey is gearing up for a new crusade to “help women become more dateable.”



Anyone else cringing, or is that just me?



It’s not that the man hasn’t had plenty of successful ideas. He’s made it as a comic, a talk show presenter, a game show host, and the author of two relationship advice books, so he must be doing something right. But if that mission statement doesn’t immediately raise a red flag, you’re not reading it correctly.



Here’s the deal: Harvey has launched a dating website, Delightful. com. as a joint venture with IAC (the company that owns Match. com, OkCupid, Tinder, and a slew of niche dating services). In addition to being the face of the site, he will supply articles and videos to help subscribers “find love and keep it.” So far so good.



But then you get to the philosophy behind the site, which Harvey kindly shared with Forbes recently.



“Women are wired differently,” he says. Online dating is great for people who want to go on a lot of dates - which means it’s good for men in Harvey’s mind, because only men are interested in playing the field. “A man doesn’t have any problem at all dating several or a wide variety of people until he finds the right one,” he says.



On the other hand, “women don’t really want to just date,” explains Harvey. “They want to date with the hope that it leads to a relationship.” And the reason is simple: “A lot of women have that biological clock that ticks in them.”



He’s not the first to say so. And undoubtedly, in some cases, he’s right. But it’s also a painfully problematic approach to 21st century dating. Just when you thought we were moving away from ideas that divide the sexes, here comes every “women are from Venus, men are from Mars” cliche that’s been ruining things so far.



Harvey goes on to say that women are too picky when it comes to dating, and that Delightful will include advice columns for women on important topics like “how to become more datable.” For men, Delightful will offer “instructionals on being the kind of man who knows how to treat a woman.” At no point does it appear Delightful will explain that it takes two people to make a relationship work, and that men and women need to learn to meet each other halfway for relationships to survive.



And what does Match CEO Sam Yagan have to say about Harvey’s prehistoric approach to modern romance?



“It’s not like we’re standing behind everything he’s ever said.” Well ok then.



Would You Let the App Healthvana Share Your STD Status So You Don't Have To?



Wednesday, October 15 2014 @ 07:00 AM



Contributed by: ElyseRomano



Views: 99



Today in “Yes, there’s even an app for that”: Healthvana. a new service helping to halt the spread of sexually transmitted diseases.



These days we do everything online - from paying our bills to booking appointments to meeting the loves of our lives. And it’s great. There are clear benefits to living in a faster, more connected world. But where do you draw the line on going digital? Would you store your STD status online?



Healthvana is banking on the answer being “yes.” The service launched earlier this summer in partnership with the AIDS Health Foundation to offer people easy access to their own health records. Healthvana sends patients' results directly from the laboratory to their smartphones, via their website or their mobile app.



Healthvana founder Ramin Bastani told ABC News "It's a digital version of, 'I'll show you mine if you show me yours.'" Armed with your results on the digital device of your choice, you can show potential partners and new doctors a time-stamped status on prevalent STDs like chlamydia, gonorrhea, syphilis, and HIV. (Note: Though common, HPV and herpes are not currently included in the app’s interface.)



"It's no different if you went to the doctor and got a printout and showed [your partner] that," Bastani explained. "We want to eradicate that idea that no news is good news."



Whitney Engeran, head of public health at the AIDS Healthcare Foundation, is also predicting a bright future for Healthvana. "It allows us to move faster with our patients and gives them a lot of quick information," he said. "Because right now if they're negative, we don't necessarily call them –- because we see so many people, we really only call them if they’re positive."



The problem, of course, is one that plagues everything in our digital age: security. What happens if Healthvana is hacked? Or if you lose your phone?



The service supposedly follows U. S. patient privacy laws known as HIPAA, because users can only access their results after entering through a secure portal, and no sensitive info is sent via email. Patient records are stored in a secure data center that only a limited number of Healthvana employees have access to.



Of course, Healthvana can only reveal the results of someone’s most recent test - which isn’t definitive proof of a clean bill of health and is no guarantee it’s safe to skip using protection. Still, if this app makes users more aware of their health, helps people approach a sensitive topic, and encourages more responsible sexual practices, it’s a welcome step in the right direction.



So far the instant record feature is being tested in three locations in Florida, and the AIDS Healthcare Foundation plans to roll out the updated app nationwide within the next two months.



Tinder Hackers Getting Creative in Looking for Matches



Tuesday, October 14 2014 @ 07:05 AM



Contributed by: kellyseal



Views: 100



Tinder is no doubt the latest craze of online and mobile dating. Most singles have heard of it, if they aren’t already using it. But despite the fact that Tinder requires you to sign up via your Facebook profile (which keeps out the fake profiles and supposedly keeps people honest about who they are) – hackers are finding ways to game the system for their own benefit.



A recent article by such a hacker appeared in Android Central, where the author Cage Michaels - who is happily in a relationship - enjoys just being on Tinder, flipping through photos and judging each woman's hotness. He has decided to share his strategy with the masses (“FTW” – “for the win” - as he says). To him, Tinder has nothing to do with his relationship and his “real life,” but considers it a game or a way to pass time entertainingly. He says, “I'm in a relationship. I'm happy. I just find it really entertaining to swipe through photos of real people. Some people spend all day looking at photos of cats. Personally, I'd rather look at photos of women. To each their own.”



Of course, in order to look at photos on Tinder you have to be on Tinder . This created a problem for him, because his friends (and her friends) noticed he was on the app and were wondering if he was cheating or had broken up with his girlfriend. According to him, neither was the case. Hence his dilemma – how could he Tinder without all the hassle?



Instead of setting up a fake Facebook profile (which can take some effort), he decided to outsmart Tinder’s GPS capabilities and fake the app into thinking he was visiting another city (where he had no friends or connections). This made his Tinder habit easy to maintain.



He goes step-by-step in the article, guiding people first through downloading a fake GPS app. Once you download, you can pick the city where you want to anonymously browse Tinder profiles. When you hit the “play” button within the fake GPS, you can then enable a fake GPS signal. Once you open Tinder, it will pick up the fake GPS location from your phone and use that for its search.



While this is one way of creating a fake profile on Tinder, it certainly isn’t the only way to outsmart the app. There are new apps being launched that take advantage of Tinder’s functionality by allowing people to match en masse without even looking at profiles, just to increase your odds of success.



Between these and the hackers, you might want to question whether your Tinder match is real, or just another person who’s gaming the system.



Luxy - New Dating App Weeds Out “Poor People”



Monday, October 13 2014 @ 12:31 PM



Contributed by: kellyseal



Views: 157



Are you living a luxurious lifestyle? Do you only want to date other people with money – others in the top 1%? If so, there’s now an app for that.



New dating app Luxy is billing itself as “Tinder, minus the poor people” – or the other 99% of Americans apparently. If you think it’s some kind of joke, it’s not. The company sent out a press release, declaring the need for an income/trust-fund-based dating app with statements like: "With the rise of high-speed digital dating, it's about time somebody introduced a filter to weed out low-income prospects by neighborhood."



Dating apps have become immensely popular since the launch of Tinder, and so there are many developers trying to distinguish their technology not through functionality, but through marketing gimmicks. This seems like a PR stunt, but according to its spokesperson, it was definitely the company’s intention to create a dating space for the wealthy.



There is a hitch, though: people using the app can say they are rich, but that doesn’t necessarily mean it’s so. Darren Shuster, the company’s spokesperson, said in a recent interview with CNN that while the app doesn't have a salary verification function yet, it has “self-policing capabilities.”



“If you show up in a 20-year-old VW Bug and request to meet at McDonald's, you won't last very long on LUXY," Shuster said. "Look, these members drive the best cars, hang out at the fanciest hotels, live in the biggest houses, wear the best clothes. It doesn't take long to weed out those who belong on a different kind of dating site."



According to Shuster, the app has 3,000 members already and the average male user’s income is $200,000 a year – though they neglected to include the incomes or specific numbers of female users. Among the app's current users are "CEOs, professional athletes, doctors, lawyers, investors, entrepreneurs, beauty queens, fitness models and Hollywood celebrities," according to the company’s media release.



Matches are made according to taste preferences – users select their favorite expensive brands like Prada and Cartier so they can bond with potential dates over their mutual love of the finest products. They also share their favorite hobbies – suitable for rich people, of course – like sailing, golf and horseback riding.



The app is getting a lot of media attention because of its bold no-apologies target market – the wealthiest daters. But will it survive the near-universal criticism it’s getting? It doesn’t seem likely, at least according to Google Play where only about 50 downloads have happened. But iTunes doesn’t reveal the number of downloads for their apps, so perhaps the rich prefer Apple products to Android?



Two out of Three Americans Disapprove of First Date Sex



Saturday, October 11 2014 @ 05:58 AM



Contributed by: kellyseal



Views: 236



Do you approve of sex on a first date, or would you avoid it at all costs? People typically fall into very distinctive camps in this heated debate – yes or never. Maybe you use Tinder every night, swiping right until you get lucky, or perhaps you completely reject the idea of first date sex because you want to maintain a certain level of interest from the object of your affection by playing coy.



If you’d rather wait to have sex, you’re in agreement with a majority of Americans. According to a recent study by website Dating Advice, 66% of Americans do not approve of having sex on the first date – two out of every three people.



This seems counter-intuitive to our culture. After all, dating apps like Tinder – an efficient and speedy app that connects people quickly, often for hooking up – are becoming the new norm. We are inundated with sexy images in the media, and our views as a culture have become increasingly liberal. There isn’t the stigma that used to be associated with premarital sex. So why does this attitude towards first date sex remain?



According to Gary Lewandowski Jr. the chair of psychology at Monmouth University and co-creator of ScienceofRelationships. com, most Americans say they don't approve of first date sex but, "it may not indicate how much first date sex [they] are having themselves." He adds that the views respondents express "reflect conformity to expectations that society has, rather than a reflection of how they actually feel." In other words, they think they are supposed to disapprove of it, so they do.



He may be right, but attitudes vary among the sexes. There was a huge distinction between men and women in their responses, with 82% of women agreeing that they wouldn’t have first date sex while only 48% of men said they wouldn’t.



"Women are the harshest judges of other women's behavior," said Robin Milhausen, an associate professor of human sexuality at the University of Guelph. "Many women wouldn't think it was OK for a woman to have sex on the first date, thinking this would be 'slutty behavior'. Women also are aware of the double-standard, recognizing they could be judged negatively if they had sex on the first date, making first date sex an unwise behavior for them." Men however, have more supportive attitudes about casual sex, so they are more likely to say they would have it.



1,080 people over the course of three weeks were surveyed for the study.



Are You Getting Responses to Your Online Dating Profile?



Thursday, October 09 2014 @ 06:52 AM



Contributed by: kellyseal



Views: 338



A recent article in XO Jane was from a female online dater with a dilemma: she can’t seem to get any responses to her online dating profile. “Online dating has made me feel more alone and rejected than ever,” she said, noting the twenty emails she sent to potential matches with zero responses.



She is mystified by the lack of responses, something that happens to men on a regular basis but a lot less often to women. It does shake your confidence when you put yourself out there and receive no feedback, but why does it become an interesting story when it happens to a woman, but is still a regular occurrence for a man?



There is a double standard with online dating. Men have to reach out far more than women, and they get far more rejections and radio silence. Perhaps there is something to learn here about giving people a chance.



The writer does admit she got messages from a few men who “weren’t her type.” While I’m sure she reached out to the men she found most attractive, I can only assume the guys on the website were doing the same. And if she isn’t going to give a chance to the guys who messaged her, then why should she expect others to give her a chance?



Dating is a numbers game when you are reaching out to people online – you have to put a good amount of effort in, and depending on the site, use its features to your advantage. For instance, if it is OkCupid, answer a lot of questions and post your own for other site users. Start a conversation. Engage with the other online daters. If it’s eHarmony, check your matches every day and complete your entire profile and questionnaire before you opt out. If you are doing Match. com, then make sure you are checking all of your matches, posting new pictures, and changing your profile description on a regular basis to engage new members.



There are so many people online dating that sometimes it can be difficult to stand out from the crowd. But you have to make the effort, use the tools/features provided, and be diligent about checking your matches and reaching out to as many potential dates as possible, even if you aren’t sure about their profile. Remember, someone could be judging you for one line, like if you admit to “liking 90’s music” or are “a fan of the Muppets and cats.” So try not to apply the same judgment to others. Give everyone a chance, even if something in his profile doesn’t click with you.



People are more interesting than a profile, and they deserve a chance, just like you. So expand your options, keep an open mind, be diligent about sending out messages - and watch your own responses increase.



Dating vs. boyfriend/girlfriend?



I guess I'm kind of new to all of this.



What's the difference between "just dating" and "boyfriend/girlfriend"? Yes, I know "just dating" is non-commital, but--



J T. says:



The minute u both only have sex with the other then u are bf and gf whether it is stated officially with a title or not. Other than that u are just dating. Sex determines mating in the animal kingdom and the moment you spurn potential mates and select one to copulate with is the moment you are committed.



5-8 years ago your statement would be true (for girls at lease). In this current society, girls will test the bounds and play the field just as much as the boys. Nowadays, everything has to be distinctly communicated.



With that said, the responses (to the thread topic) can probably be categorized by the yelper's age.



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