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Israeli Men – Jewish Dating in Israel

Living in a war zone can be scary, but dating doesn’t have to be. Hopefully this short clip can bring a small laugh to a very tense situation.

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And as far as people getting upset about the joke about men being primitive. It is a joke. Clearly, not all men are primitive, not all Ashkenazi men are primitive, and not all Sphardic men are primitive. It is funny to me that people got more upset about the Sephardic comment but not at all about the Ashkenazi comment, when it was just as much, if not more of a dig, on Ashkenazi men. And for the record, I came up with it when I was dating a Sephardic guy and he thought it was hilarious.

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Welcome to our free Jewish dating service for Jewish singles where you can register, search, and interact with other Jewish singles for free. We have thousands of Jewish singles who are looking for love and romance. We do not charge members any fee because we just want to help you find a good Jewish soulmate. Jewish singles at our Jewish dating service are waiting to meet you so join us today to find that special someone.

Jewish Dating Tips

If you’re looking to try out our Jewish dating site. here are a few things to consider:

“Jewish” can mean different things to different people. By intentionally seeking a Jewish date, know how to articulate your experience with the Jewish faith. Are you observant? Do you keep kosher? Are Jewish holidays important for religious reasons, or merely cultural ones?

Tensions often arise in relationships in which faiths are either different or held to different levels of importance. Talk about how you see your faith play out in your daily life. Don’t assume that just because you’re both Jewish, you’re on the same page spiritually.

Why is dating someone who’s Jewish important to you? Know the answer before you pursue your next relationship.

Jewish Dating: Communication

Before you even go on that first date, be honest with yourself about what you’re looking for, and initiate conversations that will help determine if the person you’re pursuing shares similar values. Early on, discuss the trajectory of the relationship. Are you looking for a marriage partner? Are you still reeling from a difficult breakup? Be open and express fears, dreams and concerns. Start your relationship off well by avoiding mixed signals and vague conversations.

Can you talk about life issues, priorities and life goals? Carefully observe how the two of you deal with differing opinions and conflict.

Make no assumptions about one another’s ideas of how a relationship should move forward. Just because you met in a Jewish-specific setting doesn’t guarantee that you’ll each organically understand where the other person is coming from.

Jewish Dating: Vision

The present is important, but so is the future. Are you looking for the same things? Do you agree on how you want to raise a family? Do you see eye-to-eye on how you plan to incorporate faith into your daily life? Even work/life balance is important to discuss. Cast a vision for your relationship. Eventually, you’ll be merging lives. It’s best to talk about dreams for the future before you’re caught in a relationship that doesn’t accommodate your goals, lifestyle, or family plans. Relationships are more about common goals than they are just common interests, so don’t be afraid to “get deep” on dates.

Also note that many people, when raising a family, return to the traditions they were brought up with. So talk about your childhoods as you contemplate a future together.

Jewish Dating: Choose Character

Chemistry is important, but character is essential. Look for someone who exemplifies the values and characteristics you want in a future mate. Also check yourself: Do you exhibit humility, kindness and responsibility in your life?

The Torah prohibits ginevat da’at, misleading another person. From the very beginning of your relationship, be honest about who you are, why you’re dating, and what you’re looking for. Choose to date honorably, not wasting someone’s time or taking advantage of his or her generosity.

Jewish Dating Service Free Jewish Dating Sites Jewish Singles (Dating Services, Speed Dating, Matchmaking, Travel, HurryDate)

These are some great dating sites that I can personally recommend, it is FREE to register with them, so you should give them a try and see how they work for you, you'll be happy you did:

JDate. com - For Jewish singles looking to join the ideal dating scene, JDate. com offers a fun, safe online environment to connect with the right people. Register with JDate for FREE and you will be pleasantly surprised at how good it is.

Many Jewish singles that are looking for a mate of either sex (whether woman, man, girl, or boy), or just a date, look online on the web at the many Jewish dating sites, Jewish matchmaking services, or free Jewish dating service websites that exist on the web online. As finding a mate is important for many Jewish singles, both women and men, and because many Jewish people want to only marry within their religion and faith, a large number of free Jewish dating service websites have been created online over the last few years to help these people. Some of these agency sites are even free to use, or at least browse.

There are different types of Jewish dating sites on line. Some of these sites allow singles to become a member and submit some information about themselves, such as photos, hobbies, interests, and religious affiliation and level. Other singles can then browse this information looking for someone that interests them, whom they can then contact through the site to set up an off line date or phone call, kind of like a Jewish personals page. Other sites act more as matchmaker services and agencies, where people fill out a comprehensive form about themselves which is then looked at by people who work for the service, who then in turn try to match with another member based on the two members' interests and other information. After making a match these services and the people involved hope to have a Jewish wedding, with a Jewish wedding ring.

Another recent phenomenon are the Jewish speed dating services and agencies (also known as Hurry Date or HurryDate), which arrange speed dating sessions for Jewish singles - allowing single men and women to meet many potential mates in one evening, face to face, not online. Speed dating has become very popular in places such as New York (NYC - Manhattan), Los Angeles LA California, Baltimore, Washington DC, Chicago, the UK, Philadelphia, Atlanta, Australia, Montreal & Toronto Canada, Miami Florida, Houston, Denver Colorado (CO), Cleveland, Las Vegas Nevada (NV), and Boston Massachusetts. Even in Israeli cities like Tel Aviv, Jerusalem (Israel), and Netanya. In addition, there are travel agencies that arrange trips for Jewish singles, hoping to help single men and women find their mates through these vacations, travels, cruises, and trips. Some of these sites have online chat rooms as well.

Some Jewish dating websites are geared toward all Jewish people regardless of religious observance, while others are geared toward specific religious levels and affiliations such as Orthodox, Conservative, Conservadox, Reform, or even Messianic. Some target only those that keep a kosher diet or are Sabbath observant. Some of these services and sites are free, while others charge a fee for their service. Many singles have found their mates through these Jewish dating web sites and services on the internet, so if you're looking, please take a look at the links below and give them a try whether you live in New York (NY - NYC), Buffalo, Los Angeles (LA) California (CA), San Diego, Oakland, San Jose, San Francisco, Dallas Texas (TX), Boston Massachusetts (MA), Maryland (MD), New Jersey (NJ), Washington DC, Columbus Cincinnati Cleveland Ohio (OH), Chicago Illinois (IL), Richmond Virginia (VA), Detroit Michigan (MI), Minnesota (MN), Seattle Washington (WA), Connecticut (CT), Phoenix Arizona (AZ), Pennsylvania (PA), Indianapolis Indiana (IN), Austin Texas (TX), Jacksonville Tampa Hollywood Orlando or South Florida (FL), St. Louis Missouri (MO), Portland Oregon (OR), Memphis Tennessee (TN), Milwaukee Wisconsin (WI), North Carolina (NC), Georgia (GA), or even Canada (Montreal, Vancouver, Toronto), Australia (Sydney, Melbourne), Paris France, and the UK (London, Manchester England).

Jewish Dating Services Sites Agencies and Matchmaking

JDate. com - For Jewish singles looking to join the ideal dating scene, JDate. com offers a fun, safe online environment to connect with the right people. Register with JDate for FREE and you will be pleasantly surprised at how good it is.

KosherStars - KosherStars is a rapidly growing free Jewish dating site for religious Jewish Singles!

JMatch - A 7-minute Speed Dating service from Aish.

OrthoDate - A dating / matchmaking site For Orthodox Jewish singles.

Frumster - Another Jewish dating site / matchmaking site For Orthodox Jewish singles.

Jewish Types - A free matchmaking site for Jewish singles of all ages that uses the theory of psychological type to create matches.

Let My People Go - LetMyPeopleGo. com has sponsored the biggest Jewish Singles parties in the USA since 1995. Their annual 'Ball' on December 24th has been attended by more than 3,000 people annually.

The Shidduch Site - Designed to be the ultimate resource for Orthodox observant singles. Although its focus is on the Maryland, D. C. Virginia, Delaware and Pennsylvania regions, it is applicable to shidduch dating singles everywhere.

Jewish Singles with Special Needs - The only Jewish singles organization aimed at helping Jewish Singles with Special Needs get connected.

Jewish Deaf Singles Registry - The registry provides a unique opportunity for Jewish deaf singles to meet one another.

Special Shidduchim - Matchmaker specializing in Jewish singles with disabilities.

Saw You At Sinai - Combines traditional matchmaking and modern technology to bring you a personalized, private and screened online dating site.

MatzahMate - A dating service tailored to professional Jewish singles. Users can send anonymous messages to other singles, talk in chat rooms, access a calendar of events and invitations to mixers.

Sasson V'Simcha (The Center for Jewish Marriage) - A non-profit organization dedicated to helping Jewish men and women meet, marry and build happy Jewish homes. Offers programs throughout North America & Israel to help Jewish singles date effectively and overcome barriers that prevent them from forming lasting relationships.

A World of Jewish Singles - With thousands of Jewish singles from Israel, the Americas, Europe and Australia in their database, A World of Jewish Singles is a leading global introduction service based in Israel since 1982.

Dating the Jewish Way

That said, according to Jewish tradition, dating plays a very specific role. Dating is viewed as a serious matter and is not intended for entertainment purposes. Dating is reserved for mature men and women who have reached marriageable age and are actively seeking their life mate.

The restrictions on dating do not stem from old-fashioned prudishness. Rather they are a key ingredient in the creation of stable marriages between compatible spouses.

You Will Find What You Seek

The focus of a date is to determine whether this person one is seeing has the qualities and values which will allow the two of them to live together harmoniously and happily for the rest of their lives. Hence, successful dating is an art; it requires the mind to take control of a domain which traditionally and instinctively belongs to the heart.

The restrictions on dating are a key ingredient in the creation of stable marriages Following this reasoning, the setting for the date should be one conducive for an extended private conversation, and both parties should be prepared to candidly describe their visions and goals for themselves and their family. A date at the cinema, for example, sheds little light on anything, and only serves to bring the two to an emotional attachment before it is healthy for them to have one, for it interferes with the ability to make an objective decision. Once the mind has decided, then the heart too must agree. When both mind and heart agree that the person is compatible, then "let the celebration begin!"

Serious and goal-oriented dating lays a strong foundation for marriage. A marriage with such a foundation will likely survive the stress and harsh conditions which will inevitably arrive sometime in the years to follow. This is the Jewish way, and we daresay it is also the common sense approach.

Today, with the loosening of social restrictions on the mingling and fraternizing between the sexes, many marriages start off as casual acquaintanceships. Two people meet, a relatively shallow conversation is initiated, sparks begin to fly, and after a period of intense courting and romance, off they go to the town clerk for a marriage license. The approach to dating has become increasingly focused on attraction and romance, and less focused on real compatibility. "Love conquers all," is a dangerous adage, and perhaps the main reason why nearly half of all marriages dissolve in divorce, and as a society, we have reached a point where the prenuptial agreement is as an integral part of the marriage process as the marriage vows.

The heart following the mind is a formula for success Fortunately, it seems that many people are discovering the wisdom of serious dating and focusing on compatibility. Assorted organizations now offer personality tests, and based on the results of these tests they endeavor to find compatible mates. These organizations claim a high success rate of many happily married couples who they've matched up. Makes sense!

In summation: the heart following the mind is a formula for success. The mind following the heart is potentially a recipe for disaster.

Starting the Search

"All the good ones are already taken," is a line we've all heard too often. The thousands of websites and organizations devoted to helping singles in general, and Jewish singles in particular, find eligible soulmates demonstrates the difficulty inherent in finding a suitable mate.

A good place to start is in the hub of your local Jewish community, which likely is your synagogue. In all probability your synagogue offers a variety of programs, classes and evenings of entertainment – all great opportunities to meet other Jewish singles (and have fun and be edified to boot!). Make your rabbi aware of the fact that you are in search mode, and ask him to keep his eye open on your behalf.

All those websites referenced above are also an option; although they may involve the inconvenience of long distance relationships and traveling. There are also many organizations which arrange tasteful retreats and special events specifically for Jewish singles.

No comprehensive discussion about Jewish dating would be complete without mentioning the role of the shadchan (matchmaker). The proverbial shadchan earned his living through making a commission on each successful match he would arrange. He'd make the rounds in the shtetel, cajoling reluctant parents, convincing them of the virtues of some boy or girl, and how well matched that individual is for their son or daughter.

Whether the popular portrayal of the Eastern European matchmaker is accurate or not, it certainly is not a depiction of today's professional shadchan . Today's shadchan discreetly offers a valuable service, and many have a high success rate. The shadchan gathers information about eligible singles – either through interviewing them, or by speaking to their friends – and has a knack for matching people together.

Today's shadchan discreetly offers a valuable service, and many have a high success rate Amongst the chassidic community, where mingling between the sexes is very minimal, almost all matches are arranged by a shadchan . However, there are many shadchans who cater to all segments of the Jewish community. If you are interested, your rabbi can certainly put you in contact with an expert shadchan .

[It is very important that the shadchan receive the honorarium due for the service rendered. Negative repercussions can, G? d forbid, result if the shadchan is not compensated for the efforts exerted.]

Dating is Not a Game

How about people not yet contemplating marriage? Can they dabble in some "harmless" dating or even some pre-marital sex? Does the Torah frown upon such entertainment and pleasure just because it is not in the context of marriage?

An understanding of the Kabbala of sexuality sheds light on this sensitive subject. Sexual attraction is a sacred calling of the soul, and contains incredible potential when properly harnessed. It motivates the selfish person to be selfless, and is a vehicle for the implementation of the Divine plan for all of Creation (see Why Marry? ).

As is the case with any potent power, sexuality's constructive powers are only matched by its destructive potential. Nuclear energy is a textbook example. It can be used to economically provide mankind with valuable and plentiful energy, or can cause untold destruction and devastation.

Outside the framework of marriage, intimacy is self-centered instead of selfless. It is an expression of the body instead of the soul. Worst of all, it can have a desensitizing effect, causing an individual to associate sexuality with these negative qualities, rather than allowing the person to relate intimacy with the spiritual and meaningful experience it is intended to be.

The less the soul's power of sexuality has been abused, the healthier the person's marriage is likely to be. Thus, the task of preserving the sanctity of sexuality and marriage begins long before one actually starts considering marriage.

The less the soul's power of sexuality has been abused, the healthier the person's marriage is likely to be This "hypothesis" is actually statistically proven. Mariah Wojdacz of LegalZoom. com, a leading online legal service center, writes: "The highest risk factor for divorce may be surprising, since it is often seen as a way to promote stability and security in a relationship. Couples who move in together prior to marriage have a far greater chance of divorce than couples who do not. How much higher is that risk? Some studies suggest couples who co-habitat before marriage, divorce at a rate as high as 85 percent."

A marriage is also healthier when neither of the spouses are comparing their spouse to previous opposite-sex partners they had.

That said, no matter what may have transpired in the past, it is never too late to start approaching sexuality from the proper perspective.

Modesty Considerations

Jewish law precludes a man and woman who are not married to each other from being secluded together in a private place. The Sages' keen understanding of the dynamics of sexual attraction prompted them to eliminate such settings which can easily lead to actions which will be later regretted.

The preferred venue for a date is thus a neutral public or semi-private location such as a restaurant, hotel lobby or park.

The Age to Throw the Hat in the Ring

The mitzvah to marry takes effect when one becomes eighteen years of age. That is the appropriate age to begin seeking an appropriate mate. This mitzvah may be deferred to a later date if one wishes to study Torah undisturbed by the financial obligations family life entails.

On the other hand, the perceived lack of financial ability to sustain a family should not be a consideration in postponing marriage. The One who sustains all of creation can and certainly will provide for one more family! A home based on proper values is a conduit for Divine blessings for all its inhabitants.