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Indian English literature

Indian English literature ( IEL ) refers to the body of work by writers in India who write in the English language and whose native or co-native language could be one of the numerous languages of India. It is also associated with the works of members of the Indian diaspora. such as V. S. Naipaul. Kiran Desai. Jhumpa Lahiri. Agha Shahid Ali. Rohinton Mistry and Salman Rushdie. who are of Indian descent.

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History [ edit ]

Later history [ edit ]

Vikram Seth. author of The Golden Gate (1986) and A Suitable Boy (1994) is a writer who uses a purer English and more realistic themes. Being a self-confessed fan of Jane Austen. his attention is on the story, its details and its twists and turns. Vikram Seth is notable both as an accomplished novelist and poet. Vikram Seth's outstanding achievement as a versatile and prolific poet remains largely and unfairly neglected.

Another writer who has contributed immensely to the India English Literature is Amitav Ghosh who is the author of The Circle of Reason (his 1986 debut novel), The Shadow Lines (1988), The Calcutta Chromosome (1995), The Glass Palace (2000), The Hungry Tide (2004), and Sea of Poppies (2008), the first volume of The Ibis trilogy, set in the 1830s, just before the Opium War. which encapsulates the colonial history of the East. Ghosh's latest work of fiction is River of Smoke (2011), the second volume of The Ibis trilogy.

Rohinton Mistry is an India born Canadian author who is a Neustadt International Prize for Literature laureate (2012). His first book Tales from Firozsha Baag (1987) published by Penguin Books Canada is a collection of 11 short stories. His novels Such a Long Journey (1991) and A Fine Balance (1995)earned him great acclaim.

Shashi Tharoor. in his The Great Indian Novel (1989), follows a story-telling (though in a satirical) mode as in the Mahabharata drawing his ideas by going back and forth in time. His work as UN official living outside India has given him a vantage point that helps construct an objective Indianness. However, his stint with Congress Party and his nearness to the Gandhi family has led to some critics question his objectivity. His well-known affinity with Rahul Gandhi and one-sided favor of Congress Party with all its scandals, has also put the objectivity of his books into question. [ 1 ] Vikram Chandra is another author who shuffles between India and the United States and has received critical acclaim for his first novel Red Earth and Pouring Rain (1995) and collection of short stories Love and Longing in Bombay (1997). His namesake Vikram A. Chandra is a renowned journalist and the author of The Srinagar Conspiracy (2000). Suketu Mehta is another writer currently based in the United States who authored Maximum City (2004), an autobiographical account of his experiences in the city of Mumbai. In 2008, Arvind Adiga received the Man Booker Prize for his debut novel The White Tiger .

Recent writers in India such as Arundhati Roy and David Davidar show a direction towards contextuality and rootedness in their works. Arundhati Roy, a trained architect and the 1997 Booker prize winner for her The God of Small Things . calls herself a "home grown" writer. Her award winning book is set in the immensely physical landscape of Kerala. Davidar sets his The House of Blue Mangoes in Southern Tamil Nadu. In both the books, geography and politics are integral to the narrative. In his novel Lament of Mohini (2000), Shreekumar Varma touches upon the unique matriarchal system and the sammandham system of marriage as he writes about the Namboodiris and the aristocrats of Kerala. Jahnavi Barua. a Bangalore based author from Assam has set her critically acclaimed collection of short stories Next Door on the social scenario in Assam with insurgency as the background. Another author Aruni Kashyap has also based his first novel The House with A Thousand Stories on the society and psyche of the people of Assam at the backdrop of insurgency.

The stories and novels of Ratan Lal Basu reflect the conditions of tribal people and hill people of West Bengal and the adjacent states of Sikkim, Bhutan and Nepal. Many of his short stories reflect the political turmoil of West Bengal since the Naxalite movement of the 1970s. Many of his stories like ‘Blue Are the Far Off Mountains’, ‘The First Rain’ and ‘the Magic Marble’ glorify purity of love. His novel ‘Oraon and the Divine Tree’ is the story of a tribal and his love for an age old tree. In Hemingway style language the author takes the reader into the dreamland of nature and people who are inexorably associated with nature.

As for the history of the gradual development of Indian drama in English, one may consult the Cooch Behar Panchanan Barma University - Assistant Professor Pinaki Roy's essay “ Dramatic Chronicle . A Very Brief Review of the Growth of Indian English Plays”, included in Indian Drama in English: Some Perspectives (ISBN 978-81-269-1772-3 ) (pp. 272–87), edited by Abha Shukla Kaushik, and published by the New Delhi - based Atlantic Publishers and Distributors Pvt. Ltd. in 2013. G. S. Amur has also written extensively on Indian authors including those who write in English.

Debates [ edit ]

One of the key issues raised in this context is the superiority/inferiority of IWE (Indian Writing in English) as opposed to the literary production in the various languages of India. Key polar concepts bandied in this context are superficial/authentic, imitative/creative, shallow/deep, critical/uncritical, elitist/parochial and so on.

The views of Salman Rushdie and Amit Chaudhuri expressed through their books The Vintage Book of Indian Writing and The Picador Book of Modern Indian Literature respectively essentialise this battle.

Rushdie's statement in his book – "the ironic proposition that India's best writing since independence may have been done in the language of the departed imperialists is simply too much for some folks to bear" – created a lot of resentment among many writers, including writers in English. In his book, Amit Chaudhuri questions – "Can it be true that Indian writing, that endlessly rich, complex and problematic entity, is to be represented by a handful of writers who write in English, who live in England or America and whom one might have met at a party?"

Chaudhuri feels that after Rushdie, IWE started employing magical realism, bagginess, non-linear narrative and hybrid language to sustain themes seen as microcosms of India and supposedly reflecting Indian conditions. He contrasts this with the works of earlier writers such as Narayan where the use of English is pure, but the deciphering of meaning needs cultural familiarity. He also feels that Indianness is a theme constructed only in IWE and does not articulate itself in the vernacular literatures. He further adds "the post-colonial novel, becomes a trope for an ideal hybridity by which the West celebrates not so much Indianness, whatever that infinitely complex thing is, but its own historical quest, its reinterpretation of itself".

Some of these arguments form an integral part of what is called postcolonial theory. The very categorisation of IWE – as IWE or under post-colonial literature – is seen by some as limiting. Amitav Ghosh made his views on this very clear by refusing to accept the Eurasian Commonwealth Writers Prize for his book The Glass Palace in 2001 and withdrawing it from the subsequent stage.

The renowned writer V. S. Naipaul, a third generation Indian from Trinidad and Tobago and a Nobel prize laureate, is a person who belongs to the world and usually not classified under IWE. Naipaul evokes ideas of homeland, rootlessness and his own personal feelings towards India in many of his books.

Jhumpa Lahiri. a Pulitzer prize winner from the U. S.. is a writer uncomfortable under the label of IWE.

Poetry [ edit ]

An overlooked category of Indian writing in English is poetry. Rabindranath Tagore wrote in Bengali and English and was responsible for the translations of his own work into English. Other early notable poets in English include Derozio. Michael Madhusudan Dutt. Toru Dutt. Romesh Chunder Dutt. Sri Aurobindo. Sarojini Naidu. and her brother Harindranath Chattopadhyay. "Sarojini Naidu and her art of poetry" is one of the finest efforts made by Dr. Deobrata Prasad in order to bring forth the real psyche of Sarojini Naidu through her poetry. This book was published by Delhi-based Capital Publishing House in 1988 in field of 'women and Anglo-Indian literature'.Dr Deobrata Prasad has very carefully taken into account all the nuances of Sarojini Naidu's poetry. The significance of this work towards Indian English Literature was first brought into perspective by University of Michigan. such a systematic work is rare to single out in today's era. Notable 20th Century authors of English poetry in India include Dilip Chitre. Kamala Das. Eunice De Souza. Nissim Ezekiel. Kersy Katrak. Arun Kolatkar. P. Lal. Jayanta Mahapatra. Dom Moraes. Gieve Patel. and A. K. Ramanujan. and among several others.

Alternative writing [ edit ]

Your Guide To Dating An Indian

So, are you dating an Indian man or a woman? Or, are you wanting to date one? Are you an Indian man or woman, confused about rules of dating in your own race? If so, this is the place for you. Come and share your "Dating An Indian" story with the world and become part of this effort to expose the world of "dating", "sex", "arranged marraiges", and more in the middle class Indian American community.

Previous Posts

Friday, July 29, 2005

Indian guys, white girls, and more.

Comments from another Blog reader: (He posted this on CL in June 04 and forwarded it to me to post on the blog)

I think all you Indian guys on this site whine too much (obviously, since you're at home watching Kal Ho Na Ho for the 17th time instead of going out and getting a life).

Since I'm an Indian guy, and have no trouble dating women (of any ethnicity) maybe you should read this posting.

Here's my $0.02.

Here's the deal (on why white women won't date you) Most of us Indian guys were brought up in a society where we were given plenty of love and attention by family, unconditionally. Now, you want to leave all that behind, and come to this country in pursuit of the almighty dollar, and you expect that white women will give you the same, like your mother did.

No way, Jose. (Or Sandeep, or Ranjeet, or whatever. )

Women here are more used to men who have a LIFE - don't expect the arranged marriage kind of unconditionality here.

But here's 10 things that could help.

1--- Have things and people that you are really passionate about (coz we all know just how exciting writing code is and how much you look forward to it every day. NOT. Learn to play a musical instrument. Join a book club. Learn to make a simple bechamel sauce. Take a spanish class)

2--- Learn to dress sharp (if you can't carry off a pink shirt, or green shoes, forget it. Back in India, we didn't really have couture - now that you're here, don't stop at nikes and reeboks - know what a kate spade or a manolo blahnik is. And you techies can afford prada shoes, so go out and get some. )

3--- Read the New York Times (like it or not, it's more relevant to life here than reading the Times of India website.)

4--- Learn to have an opinion (learn to think for yourself. Read. Watch. Observe. Discuss. Learn.)

5--- Culinary adventures are good (learn about wine. buy a larousse gastronomique or a joy of cooking. learn how to make a mean sangria. taste at least 40 types of beer. don't eat any type of cuisine more than twice a week. invent a cocktail a week)

6--- Be proud of who you are and where you're from (Stop having a complex about being Indian. we invented the zero. we have the yummiest food in the world. indian clothes rock too. the tabla is the mot difficult percussion instrument to play. india is one of the most secular countries in the world. we have a great liberal and responsible media, unlike the controlled american media. 'nuff said)

7--- Learn to genuinely want to know more about other cultures and people (not just from the point of view of scoring chicks. learn what unites us as people, and what separates us too. have intense conversations.)

8--- Stop judging people (why do you desi guys just want white checks, eh? stop judging black women, or latin women, or asian women. you fuckers stereotype white women, and then complain of people stereotyping you. That's fucked up. Learn to respect a woman in every role that she plays, and as a person. Be interested in her life, not just her skin. As a good friend, who is also a white chick, said - drop your boundaries, not your pants)

9--- Personal grooming is good for you (stop buying the cheapest soap at safeway or rite aid. trim your nose hair. gel might make your hair look better. remember, buying neutrogena or aveda will not make you grow breasts or change your hormonal balance. ever heard of the term metrosexual. Though dated, it still holds some value. )

10--- To sum it up - women are interested in you if you are interested in yourself. Focus on your life. Love yourself and take care of yourself. Nourish yourself intellectually, emotionally, physically and otherwise. only if you feel good about yourself, will anyone else feel good about you. Be interesting, and people will be interested in you. Enuff new agey crap, but it all holds true.

Bring on the hate mail (or write me a note saying you liked this posting. )

I hope someone reads this - all my time and effort.

posted by Dating An Indian Guide @ 12:38 AM

39 Comments:

one of the most intresting and worth reading blog I read. funny yet intelligent!

right about one thing INdian do have a commplex, and they look kat you like they looking theough your soul. I dont like the stares

I started to type out a comment here, but my comment was big enough that I thought it better to post it as a blog. Check out my response to this blog here: Indian men and Inter-racial dating

Also interesting thing to note is that most of the educated indians you see here are geeky types..they had no fun in their entire school life, many might have not even touched women/alcholoc till they actually reached 21 :). I see the similar geeky types lacking the social skill here too..They find it stupid to spend money on things that offer style, but they can spend $$$$ on gadgets and stuff they like. Well its true for both men and women.

Very interesting post. But, all said and done, I can feel the undercurrent that "desi" guys in US want to date a white chick more than anything. While the validity of that generalization might not be too difficult to prove, generalizations per se are inherently flawed right?

BTW, thanks for your tips. That is something a guy can always use.

van,

To each his own. As somebody said, style is what you can get away with. Ever watched David Letterman on The Late show?

This is a really interesting blog. I appraoach dating as a non-Indian ritual. everything I do, say, express, is guided by what I see/know/learned from Americans going about it. Doesn't make a whole lot of sense to me to remain Indian (do we have a concept of dating at all ?) in this regard. My nature and personality and thought are very much Indian, and I am able to present an attractive option for the women I am interested in dating. It is definitely a learning process, but after being here 4 years, and dating for a year, I have been able to get dates fairly easily now. certianly a lot more than a typical American male my age and in my occupation. It probably helps that I am a nice person. and I am also able to be detached from my culture and relegion to present a unitarian figure who understand both the east and the west. In the end I don't think it is about being Indian or American, all it is, is how good of a person you are and how socially-intelligent you are. Good luck with the book !

One thing I find strange about dating indians as a non-indian is that Indians tend to predict future. Some of them think that if they predict there is no future due to various reasons other than the feelings, then he just might as well end it as soon as possible. Who can predict what will happen months or years later? This is one thing that perplexed me for a long time now, and couldn't find out the deeper reason.

Friends and families advised against my dating indians, citing that Indians don't respect women and whatnot. I didn't find it true in that particular respect. But no matter how well-educated the guys are, they'd rather believe in an arranged marriage than a marriage from the fruit of love. To most people, you have to have a connection to be in love and move on to the next level, however that doesn't seem to be the case with Indians. One of my indian dates actually told me that by his observation of the divorce rate in the United States, many people fall in love, get married, then divorced shortly. He would rather enter an arranged “safe” marriage (ie. see an Indian girl for couple of weeks and talk on the phone for a while), then he will be happy with his "two-week" wife. I think the main reason I would not date any indian guys in the future is that I just cannot deal with the practicality issues (or maybe excuses) they put up. Men and Women are not just pawns of the society, they are fresh and blood, you cannot just pour yourself into a mold. You have to face your true feelings.

I am not ruling out the possiblity that it's an atypical example, but until I hear comments otherwise from indian guys themselves, I would deem it true by personal experience.

The Indian men I've worked with have been more respectful of me & willing to value my input in th workplace than most of the American men I work with. And they seem to take more care in personal grooming, etc. than a lot of my other coworkers. So much for stereotypes :)

Hi guys,

I have no idea how I arrived here but thank goodness I did because I think I can be of some help..Wow, a lot of work for you guys..The key to minimizing 10 things that could help is move to Texas..You can cut your prep time to 80% at least..for example: Tip #1..BBQ sauce in a bottle..no need to learn to play a musical instrument..Karaoke..you can learn. Ma Vida Loca..Spanish..reading..singing all wrapped up in one neat little package. #2..Jeans and T shirt..these Texas boys can't even pronounce kate spade. manolo blahnik or prada shoes..I'm afraid if you said..Hey, great shoes.."prada"? to one of our guys, he might just reply." Thanks", prouda ya too"..#3 No need to read the Dallas morning news..Just tuck it under your arm and the girls will think you're oozing culture. Just say something like "Stock market".#4 For Pete's sake never have an opinion, it's a recipe for disaster..As they say in Texas "opinions are like assholes, everybody's got one" #5 The only thing you need to know about wine is which way the spiket comes out..and forget 40 beers..just need to know one..Coors..#6..can't improve on that one..#7..ditto..#8 All true but don't totally rule out dropping your pants..#9..don't need all that..one bottle of old spice and your good to go..shit I had to look up metro-sexual..see what I mean .#10 to sum it all up 90% of the women I know don't give a shit if you're interested in yourself as long as you're interested in them and by all means focus on her life. I'm speaking as a Texas women and this information is not second hand..To prove my point. My husband died 2 1/2 years ago and I let my friends talk me into a blind date a few weeks ago..let's just say beer, pool, darts, totally clash with nose rings..belly button rings..I pretty much sucked at darts and pool but, if someone would have told me we were playing extreme sports I would have practiced..So all of you Indian guys welcome to Texas..If you decide to move here, you must learn to say shit and as my contribution to set you on solid footing, I'm giving you #11..

Shit may just be the most

Dating

Dating is a part of human mating process whereby two people meet socially for companionship. beyond the level of friendship. or with the aim of each assessing the other's suitability as a partner in an intimate relationship or marriage. It can be a form of courtship consisting of social activities done by the couple. While the term has several meanings, it usually refers to the act of meeting and engaging in some mutually agreed upon social activity in public, together, as a couple.

History [ edit ]

Dating as an institution is a relatively recent phenomenon which has mainly emerged in the last few centuries. From the standpoint of anthropology and sociology. dating is linked with other institutions such as marriage and the family which have also been changing rapidly and which have been subject to many forces, including advances in technology and medicine. As humans have evolved from hunter-gatherers into civilized societies and more recently into modern societies, there have been substantial changes in the relationship between men and women, with perhaps the only biological constant being that both adult women and men must have sexual intercourse for human procreation to happen. [ 3 ]

Humans have been compared to other species in terms of sexual behavior. Neurobiologist Robert Sapolsky constructed a reproductive spectrum with opposite poles being tournament species. in which males compete fiercely for reproductive privileges with females, and pair bond arrangements, in which a male and female will bond for life. [ 4 ] According to Sapolsky, humans are somewhat in the middle of this spectrum, in the sense that humans form pair bonds, but there is the possibility of cheating or changing partners. [ 4 ] These species-particular behavior patterns provide a context for aspects of human reproduction. including dating. However, one particularity of the human species is that pair bonds are often formed without necessarily having the intention of reproduction. In modern times, emphasis on the institution of marriage, generally described as a male-female bond, has obscured pair bonds formed by same-sex and transsexual couples, and that many heterosexual couples also bond for life without offspring, or that often pairs that do have offspring separate. Thus, the concept of marriage is changing widely in many countries.

Historically, marriages in most societies were arranged by parents and older relatives with the goal not being love but legacy and "economic stability and political alliances", according to anthropologists. [ 5 ] Accordingly, there was little need for a temporary trial period such as dating before a permanent community-recognized union was formed between a man and a woman. While pair-bonds of varying forms were recognized by most societies as acceptable social arrangements, marriage was reserved for heterosexual pairings and had a transactional nature, where wives were in many cases a form of property being exchanged between father and husband, and who would have to serve the function of reproduction. Communities exerted pressure on people to form pair-bonds in places such as Europe ; in China. according to sociologist Tang Can, society "demanded people get married before having a sexual relationship" [ 6 ] and many societies found that some formally recognized bond between a man and a woman was the best way of rearing and educating children as well as helping to avoid conflicts and misunderstandings regarding competition for mates.

Your Guide To Dating An Indian

So, are you dating an Indian man or a woman? Or, are you wanting to date one? Are you an Indian man or woman, confused about rules of dating in your own race? If so, this is the place for you. Come and share your "Dating An Indian" story with the world and become part of this effort to expose the world of "dating", "sex", "arranged marraiges", and more in the middle class Indian American community.

Previous Posts

Friday, July 29, 2005

Indian guys, white girls, and more.

Comments from another Blog reader: (He posted this on CL in June 04 and forwarded it to me to post on the blog)

I think all you Indian guys on this site whine too much (obviously, since you're at home watching Kal Ho Na Ho for the 17th time instead of going out and getting a life).

Since I'm an Indian guy, and have no trouble dating women (of any ethnicity) maybe you should read this posting.

Here's my $0.02.

Here's the deal (on why white women won't date you) Most of us Indian guys were brought up in a society where we were given plenty of love and attention by family, unconditionally. Now, you want to leave all that behind, and come to this country in pursuit of the almighty dollar, and you expect that white women will give you the same, like your mother did.

No way, Jose. (Or Sandeep, or Ranjeet, or whatever. )

Women here are more used to men who have a LIFE - don't expect the arranged marriage kind of unconditionality here.

But here's 10 things that could help.

1--- Have things and people that you are really passionate about (coz we all know just how exciting writing code is and how much you look forward to it every day. NOT. Learn to play a musical instrument. Join a book club. Learn to make a simple bechamel sauce. Take a spanish class)

2--- Learn to dress sharp (if you can't carry off a pink shirt, or green shoes, forget it. Back in India, we didn't really have couture - now that you're here, don't stop at nikes and reeboks - know what a kate spade or a manolo blahnik is. And you techies can afford prada shoes, so go out and get some. )

3--- Read the New York Times (like it or not, it's more relevant to life here than reading the Times of India website.)

4--- Learn to have an opinion (learn to think for yourself. Read. Watch. Observe. Discuss. Learn.)

5--- Culinary adventures are good (learn about wine. buy a larousse gastronomique or a joy of cooking. learn how to make a mean sangria. taste at least 40 types of beer. don't eat any type of cuisine more than twice a week. invent a cocktail a week)

6--- Be proud of who you are and where you're from (Stop having a complex about being Indian. we invented the zero. we have the yummiest food in the world. indian clothes rock too. the tabla is the mot difficult percussion instrument to play. india is one of the most secular countries in the world. we have a great liberal and responsible media, unlike the controlled american media. 'nuff said)

7--- Learn to genuinely want to know more about other cultures and people (not just from the point of view of scoring chicks. learn what unites us as people, and what separates us too. have intense conversations.)

8--- Stop judging people (why do you desi guys just want white checks, eh? stop judging black women, or latin women, or asian women. you fuckers stereotype white women, and then complain of people stereotyping you. That's fucked up. Learn to respect a woman in every role that she plays, and as a person. Be interested in her life, not just her skin. As a good friend, who is also a white chick, said - drop your boundaries, not your pants)

9--- Personal grooming is good for you (stop buying the cheapest soap at safeway or rite aid. trim your nose hair. gel might make your hair look better. remember, buying neutrogena or aveda will not make you grow breasts or change your hormonal balance. ever heard of the term metrosexual. Though dated, it still holds some value. )

10--- To sum it up - women are interested in you if you are interested in yourself. Focus on your life. Love yourself and take care of yourself. Nourish yourself intellectually, emotionally, physically and otherwise. only if you feel good about yourself, will anyone else feel good about you. Be interesting, and people will be interested in you. Enuff new agey crap, but it all holds true.

Bring on the hate mail (or write me a note saying you liked this posting. )

I hope someone reads this - all my time and effort.

posted by Dating An Indian Guide @ 12:38 AM

39 Comments:

one of the most intresting and worth reading blog I read. funny yet intelligent!

right about one thing INdian do have a commplex, and they look kat you like they looking theough your soul. I dont like the stares

I started to type out a comment here, but my comment was big enough that I thought it better to post it as a blog. Check out my response to this blog here: Indian men and Inter-racial dating

Also interesting thing to note is that most of the educated indians you see here are geeky types..they had no fun in their entire school life, many might have not even touched women/alcholoc till they actually reached 21 :). I see the similar geeky types lacking the social skill here too..They find it stupid to spend money on things that offer style, but they can spend $$$$ on gadgets and stuff they like. Well its true for both men and women.

Very interesting post. But, all said and done, I can feel the undercurrent that "desi" guys in US want to date a white chick more than anything. While the validity of that generalization might not be too difficult to prove, generalizations per se are inherently flawed right?

BTW, thanks for your tips. That is something a guy can always use.

van,

To each his own. As somebody said, style is what you can get away with. Ever watched David Letterman on The Late show?

This is a really interesting blog. I appraoach dating as a non-Indian ritual. everything I do, say, express, is guided by what I see/know/learned from Americans going about it. Doesn't make a whole lot of sense to me to remain Indian (do we have a concept of dating at all ?) in this regard. My nature and personality and thought are very much Indian, and I am able to present an attractive option for the women I am interested in dating. It is definitely a learning process, but after being here 4 years, and dating for a year, I have been able to get dates fairly easily now. certianly a lot more than a typical American male my age and in my occupation. It probably helps that I am a nice person. and I am also able to be detached from my culture and relegion to present a unitarian figure who understand both the east and the west. In the end I don't think it is about being Indian or American, all it is, is how good of a person you are and how socially-intelligent you are. Good luck with the book !

One thing I find strange about dating indians as a non-indian is that Indians tend to predict future. Some of them think that if they predict there is no future due to various reasons other than the feelings, then he just might as well end it as soon as possible. Who can predict what will happen months or years later? This is one thing that perplexed me for a long time now, and couldn't find out the deeper reason.

Friends and families advised against my dating indians, citing that Indians don't respect women and whatnot. I didn't find it true in that particular respect. But no matter how well-educated the guys are, they'd rather believe in an arranged marriage than a marriage from the fruit of love. To most people, you have to have a connection to be in love and move on to the next level, however that doesn't seem to be the case with Indians. One of my indian dates actually told me that by his observation of the divorce rate in the United States, many people fall in love, get married, then divorced shortly. He would rather enter an arranged “safe” marriage (ie. see an Indian girl for couple of weeks and talk on the phone for a while), then he will be happy with his "two-week" wife. I think the main reason I would not date any indian guys in the future is that I just cannot deal with the practicality issues (or maybe excuses) they put up. Men and Women are not just pawns of the society, they are fresh and blood, you cannot just pour yourself into a mold. You have to face your true feelings.

I am not ruling out the possiblity that it's an atypical example, but until I hear comments otherwise from indian guys themselves, I would deem it true by personal experience.

The Indian men I've worked with have been more respectful of me & willing to value my input in th workplace than most of the American men I work with. And they seem to take more care in personal grooming, etc. than a lot of my other coworkers. So much for stereotypes :)

Hi guys,

I have no idea how I arrived here but thank goodness I did because I think I can be of some help..Wow, a lot of work for you guys..The key to minimizing 10 things that could help is move to Texas..You can cut your prep time to 80% at least..for example: Tip #1..BBQ sauce in a bottle..no need to learn to play a musical instrument..Karaoke..you can learn. Ma Vida Loca..Spanish..reading..singing all wrapped up in one neat little package. #2..Jeans and T shirt..these Texas boys can't even pronounce kate spade. manolo blahnik or prada shoes..I'm afraid if you said..Hey, great shoes.."prada"? to one of our guys, he might just reply." Thanks", prouda ya too"..#3 No need to read the Dallas morning news..Just tuck it under your arm and the girls will think you're oozing culture. Just say something like "Stock market".#4 For Pete's sake never have an opinion, it's a recipe for disaster..As they say in Texas "opinions are like assholes, everybody's got one" #5 The only thing you need to know about wine is which way the spiket comes out..and forget 40 beers..just need to know one..Coors..#6..can't improve on that one..#7..ditto..#8 All true but don't totally rule out dropping your pants..#9..don't need all that..one bottle of old spice and your good to go..shit I had to look up metro-sexual..see what I mean .#10 to sum it all up 90% of the women I know don't give a shit if you're interested in yourself as long as you're interested in them and by all means focus on her life. I'm speaking as a Texas women and this information is not second hand..To prove my point. My husband died 2 1/2 years ago and I let my friends talk me into a blind date a few weeks ago..let's just say beer, pool, darts, totally clash with nose rings..belly button rings..I pretty much sucked at darts and pool but, if someone would have told me we were playing extreme sports I would have practiced..So all of you Indian guys welcome to Texas..If you decide to move here, you must learn to say shit and as my contribution to set you on solid footing, I'm giving you #11..

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